I want to introduce you all to one of my sponsors and very good friends, Elisabeth. We’ve developed such a close friendship over the past couple of months and she’s been such a great person to talk to. She’s helped me grow in ways that I never expected! Her blog is also pretty awesome, too. You should check it out!
P.S. You can find me over at Secrets of a Southern Girl today! Danielle and I chatted last night– see what we talked out!
First off, I have to say that I love Whitney. I didn’t buy much of this “you gain wonderful friendships from blogging” business until I met Whit – and let me tell you, she’s awesome.
Anyways – my name Elisabeth and I blog over at La Vita e Bella! I’m just starting my senior year as an International Relations student at BYU and just finished celebrating a whole year of marriage :) Since the wedding the blog has involved a lot of marriage: be it advice I’ve gotten, tips I have, dates we go on, or the things we do (and the style we do it in).
Today I’m sharing my pre marriage checklist: conversation style.
Here are some things I think its important to know before you seal the deal.
What should make or break the deal:
- Priorities. Talk about them. You have to have the same priorities, or at least respect each others. You don’t have to like the same things, or want to live the same place, but you need to value the same things. And I’m not talking about sports. He can like football and you can love gymnastics, but if your goal is to graduate with a PHd and he doesn’t value education, it might now work out so well.
Things to Know Before the “I DO”:
- Standards for seeing members of the opposite sex. Maybe you two are okay with hanging out alone with other people, maybe you aren’t. However you feel, its important to be on the same page, or at least understand and respect each other.
- How often they expect to see their family.
- How they feel about religion. (if religion is one of your priorities – this may move into the first category).
- How many kids they want.
- Work expectations. Are they providing income and you’re doing the cooking and cleaning? Or are you both working and you cook and he cleans? This isn’t crazy important but setting these expectations early will help ease the transition.
- Know each other’s financial situation. Not that it should keep you from getting married, its just something you should touch base on before you leave the altar.
- Oh, and you should probably learn his high school mascot, favorite candy, childhood dream, and favorite ice cream flavor so you don’t look foolish at your bridal shower ;)
Things to Figure Out Later (aka not important):
- Where they want to live (this may be higher up for some people).
- What their ideal vacation destination is.
- What their holiday traditions are.
- What side of the bed they sleep on.