That Time I Got Real

February 21, 2013
There have been quite a few events that have occurred this week that have inspired what I’m about to say. It’s a debate that’s been taking over my thoughts recently: is the old saying “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all” really true? Of course this pertains to both the blogging community as well as “real life.”
We all have our opinions on things. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. I’ve never been one to shy away from sharing my opinions on politics on the blog, but I’ve always been sure to do it in a way that’s not offensive and welcomes healthy, mature debate. I’ve tried to explain my reasoning for believing something in a way that doesn’t put down the other side. I’ve never posted anything on my blog for shock value, and never do I intentionally want to be the center of controversy because of the way that I word something on my blog. 
There’s no way that I could so eloquently say what Betsy said on Tuesday in her blog post. Writing in response to an editorial from Fox News talking about premarital sex, she explains that it’s okay for us to have differing opinions. She stresses the importance of accepting each others’ differences without chastising each other for them. I totally agree. Our differences are what make the world an interesting place, but don’t let it be what divides us.


There are people out there in this world, both bloggers and not, who
simply say things to get a rise out of you. They’re called trolls. Don’t
let them get the best of you; it’s what they want. A good friend of mine had two of them post on her blog this week, anonymously. They were obviously people who were fairly educated, as evidenced by their grammar, but were so hateful. My question is… why?

As Americans, we have the right to say just about anything that we want. But should we? There’s a difference between constructive criticism and cruelty. Saying “this is just my opinion” and “no offense” doesn’t make what you say any less harsh to those around you.

Before we decide to write a blog post, leave a comment, or even say something out loud, we should think about it. I’m not saying that we should walk on thin ice forever, and if it’s your blog you have every right to post what you want. But let’s be a community that uplifts, not one that tears down.

What are your thoughts?

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