There’s something that’s been bothering me lately. I gotta be honest. This post may get me into trouble with some of you, and I know not everyone will agree with me. But just hear me out….
(it’s a little wordy, I apologize.)
As a college freshman, I went through sorority recruitment. I always knew that I wanted to join, for the social and leadership opportunities. For the first few weeks, I wasn’t sure what I was getting into. But over the course of my four (and a half) years in college, I had an experience that I never could have dreamed of. I served as vice president, I had two amazing little sisters, and became so close to my pledge class that we’ve even been in each others’ weddings. My entire college experience was defined by the experiences that I had as a member of my Greek organization.
So what now? I’ve been graduated for a few months and have moved halfway across the country, hours away from any of my college friends or family. Y’all have seen the struggles that I’ve had being away from my friends and not being involved with the Greek community anymore. So many people I know have graduated from college and moved on to their adult lives. But I have a problem with that.
I see so many bloggers, and real-life friends, who call themselves “alum” of their respective sororities, but I disagree. When I introduce myself to someone, or talk about Greek life, I don’t say “I was a Delta Zeta.”
I say “I AM a Delta Zeta.”
There’s an article/speech called “You’re Always Wearing Your Letters
.” (If you haven’t read it, I encourage you to. I know it’s a little long, but it’s worth it.) My point is, just because I’ve graduated from college doesn’t mean that I’ve stopped representing the ideals that my organization believes in. Sure, some of you may be thinking, “oh, this girl is just stuck in college” but I really don’t think that’s the case.
For example, look at NPHC sororities. I see sixty-year-old women driving around with license plates that say Delta Sigma Theta or Alpha Kappa Alpha or any of the many other organizations. They still participate in alum groups, donate money to their organizations, or any other number of things involved with those groups.
What I’m saying is, when you cheered any of those other catchy phrases explaining how you’d always be a part of that sisterhood, are you still living that way today?
I understand that not everyone has the time or money to dedicate to joining an alumnae group. I just joined one once I moved to Houston with my husband. To be honest? It’s not at all the time commitment that I thought it’d be. And the dues? Even with working a part time job, it’s more than affordable (since you pay per year instead of per month, like my collegiate chapter did.)
I have a few friends who moved away from our college town and are struggling with finding friends. I could not recommend getting involved with an alum chapter enough. You’re not required to participate in anything, but just having that group there is so nice. You interact with sisters that are much older than you and from all over the country. Personally, I think that’s so cool!
The thing that really encouraged me to write this post is the fact that there are over 3,800 Delta Zetas living in the Houston area. Yet each month at our meetings, we have between 10-20 sisters attending. I ask you, why? What do you have to lose?
The next time you talk about being a member of your organization, I encourage you to say “I am” versus “I was.”
Please feel free to leave any comments that you have about this topic, whether you agree with me or not! I know that this may be more important to someone like me who moved away from everyone she knew. I’m a little overzealous about being involved, so you can tell me if you think I’m crazy :)